Talking to Your Critical Voices

December 12th, 2022 by dayat No comments »

Negative or critical voices … with people feeling good about … or feeling good at all. … those critical voices are so loud that’s all you can hear — and you miss out on your

Negative or critical voices interfere with people feeling good about themselves,Guest Posting or feeling good at all. Sometimes those critical voices are so loud that’s all you can hear — and you miss out on your beauty, your growth, on the wonderful things you’re doing. This is especially true for anyone who heard constant critical or negative things about themselves growing up, or who’s experienced abuse. Then there are the criticisms that women, especially, absorb from advertisements, televison, and magazines. We may have heard horrible things said about ourselves so often that we came to believe them — or we may still have those messages running through our heads like a tape player — so softly we hardly hear them, but constant and always there, or so loudly they blot everything else out.

But there is a way to lessen the intensity of those critical voices, and let them give you a break. Read on for some suggestions. (Note: You don’t have to do all or even most of these things. Just find what works for you.)

* Notice the Critical Messages

The first thing to do to help quiet self-criticism is to notice that it’s happening. Many people put themselves down or criticize themselves without even noticing they’re doing it. They might think that they’re being reasonable or objective or helpful. But criticizing yourself doesn’t help you at all — it just feeds more negative and self-harming thinking.

So how do you pay attention?

If you really can’t hear it in yourself, ask a friend or lover to point out when you’re criticizing yourself. Probably you do it a lot less out loud than you do in your own head, though, so this is just a starting point.

Try sitting with yourself quietly for a long time, and listen to what’s going on in the background. If it helps to write it out, do that. What do you hear?

* Listen to the critical voices.

Next, try listening to those critical voices. Find out exactly what they’re saying. The more we ignore something, the stronger it gets. It helps to acknowledge those critical voices, and to let them know you’ve heard them. And it can help to hear exactly what they’re saying. Try repeating their phrases aloud, or write them down.

* Look at the Patterns

When you start to hear the negative messages, try to trace back when they started. Did you make a “mistake” and verbally slap yourself, or laugh at yourself before anyone else could? Did someone else say something that made you think they were putting you down? Did someone laugh at you when you were feeling vulnerable?

Try to notice every time a new onslaught of self-critical messages happens. Write it down. Become familiar with your triggers — what sets off that onslaught of criticism. Then try to recognize that trigger as soon as it happens, or as soon after it has happened as you can. When you see that pattern happening where critical messages are set off, try to step back a little and give yourself some compassion and distance. Remind yourself that you’re feeling particularly vulnerable, or hurt, or scared, and that you don’t need to be so harsh on yourself.

* Trace the Messages Back to Their Root

Look at the messages you hear in your head. Really analyze them. You had to get them from somewhere. Are any of them familiar? Did anyone tell you any of those messages when you were a child? Do they sound like your mother — or your father? Try to figure out when you first started “thinking” those phrases. Sometimes knowing where those messages come from can decrease their intensity. (Ah ha — that’s something my mother used to say to me. But she’s not right! I don’t need to carry her voice in my head any more.)

* Have a Conversation With the Critical Voices

Have a conversation with your critical voices. It might help to do this on paper or at your computer so you can see it more clearly. Ask those critical voices what they need, and why they’re telling you such negative things about yourself. Ask them what they’re afraid of, and why they need to do what they do so strongly. Just let the answers come up and be there. Now is the time to listen.

Try not to be judgmental of those critical voices. It may help to realize that critical voices often come out of desperation and duress — such as a little child blaming herself instead of the adults who were hurting her, because it was safer to think that way. Often, behind all those negative messages and criticism is a lot of vulnerability, insecurity, and fear. If you can get in touch with that vulnerability, and understand where it’s coming from, you may find that the need to criticize yourself greatly diminishes.

Ear Reshaping Surgery ( Otoplasty ) – What it is, Benefits, Procedure & much more

December 12th, 2022 by dayat No comments »

Know everything about ear Reshaping Surgery ( Otoplasty ) i.e. What it is, benefits, procedure, surgery alternatives, Risks, recovery time and much more

What is Ear Reshaping?

EAR RESHAPING is also known as otoplasty. Cosmetic surgery of the ear is an aesthetic procedure that helps to alter the size,Guest Posting position, or proportion of the ears.

The result of otoplasty varies greatly depending on the changes that are desired by the patient.

EAR RESHAPING is known to enhance and boost self-confidence in children and teenagers.

If the ears bulge out, ear pinning can be done to flatten the ears against the head. If one ear is positioned higher than the other, ear repositioning can help create symmetry. Large, oversized ears can be addressed alone or in conjunction with other cosmetic surgeries.>

Who Needs It?/ Candidature For Ear Reshaping
Who is the best candidate for Ear Reshaping?

The need for EAR RESHAPING :

If you are born with overly big or small ears.
If your ears are disproportionate in context to your head or oddly located.
If your ears bulge out noticeably.
If you have wretched with an injury that has negatively impacted the shape or positioning of the ears
Children are common patients for otoplasty.if and when the ears have reached their full size, which usually happens around age six.
A set-back otoplasty, is a procedure to reduce the prominence of ears that bulge out too much, can be performed on both adults as well as children.

Eligibility to undergo a EAR RESHAPING :

Any of the above mentioned reasons makes you a suitable candidate to undergo EAR RESHAPING , But to be an eligible candidate for surgery you should also fulfill the following criteria:
Every surgical procedure including plastic or cosmetic surgery involves certain risks. You should undergo a EAR RESHAPING only if you have a medical requirement or you feel that the particular surgery will enhance your quality of life.
You shall be a good candidate for the EAR RESHAPING if you are healthy, you have realistic expectations from the outcome of the surgery and you are aware of all the risks associated with the procedure.
You cannot consider undergoing a cosmetic surgery if you have serious health issues like diabetes, heart diseases, high blood pressure, bleeding disorders like haemophilia or depression.
You shall not be a good candidate for the EAR RESHAPING if you smoke or drink too much alcohol.
You should have positive attitude!
You expectations from the outcome of the surgery should be realistic.
You should be ready to miss at least a few weeks of normal activity.

Benefits Of Ear Reshaping
Cosmetic surgery of the ear is an aesthetic procedure that helps to alter the size, position, or proportion of the ears.

Advantages of EAR RESHAPING :

Otoplasty can improvise the shape and proportion of the ears.
A ear surgery can enhance self-confidence
It is a minimal-risk procedure that can be also performed on children over the age of five.
The biggest of EAR RESHAPING is that the outcome normally lasts for a lifetime with minimal fluctuations.



Ageing is a natural process which everyone goes through. Visible wrinkles, fine lines, blemishes are signs of ageing. Such skin flaws makes you look tired or aged. But with EAR RESHAPING like suitable treatment one feels younger, healthier and rejuvenated.


Nowadays EAR RESHAPING is gaining immense popularity because it produce results that blend extremely well with a patient’s facial aesthetics. Soon after the surgery, one gets back to the desired or normal shape of a treated body part. One does not have to wait long to see the result, which is the beauty of cosmetic surgery.


Self Confidence is a tool that helps us face challenges and tackle problems in life, with great certainty. When you look good, you feel good which in turn increases your self confidence. It leads to greater willingness to try new things or open up in social situations. You become more willing and open to wearing certain clothes or participating in activities which you avoided prior to surgery, due to discomfort in your appearance.

Certain clinicians and psychologists feel, few corrections in your body parts, by cosmetic surgery can not only lead to emotional wellness but also enhanced mental health.


Studies do suggest that people that are more attractive benefit in their personal as well as professional lives.

Studies have also found, good looking people have a higher probability of getting promotions and making more salary.

A 2012 study published in Applied Financial Economics revealed that good looking real estate agents were able to sell properties at a higher price than agents that were average looking.

Disadvantages of EAR RESHAPING :

Young children who undergo surgery might have trouble dealing with aftercare and recovery.
There are chances that the ear symmetry may be affected.
The biggest disadvantage of otoplasty is chances of permanent scarring or numbness of the ear or face.
If you wish to undergo an EAR RESHAPING for specific goal or need, what is unique to you, please consult your aesthetic plastic surgeon.

Ear Reshaping Surgery Procedure
The procedure

In children, the cartilage is soft enough and splints can be used for performing the surgery which is mostly done under general anesthesia.
Adults, however, have harder cartilage, and the procedure should be carried out by removing or repositioning cartilage after making an incision in the ear.
Depending on the structure of ears and expected changes, the doctor might take an incision hidden inside or behind the ear.
Extra cartilage or soft tissue that makes the ear “bulge out” too much can be removed.
If normal folds are missing from the ear, they can be re-created by re-shaping the cartilage with permanent surgical seam or scraping the cartilage to contour it.
Occasionally, combination of techniques is required to get the desired outcome.
Incisions are made to excise excess skin and fat.
The cartilage is recontoured and brought into appropriate position.
The sutures close the incision.
Otoplasty can be carried out on children as young as five or six to correct large ears that bulge out from the head.